
02-05-2003, 08:13 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: VA
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B/F is MARREID!!!!!!!!
I am soooo pissed! I just (well, earlier this morning) found out that the man I have been seeing for a little over a year is oh so very MARRIED!!!!
He lives in North Carolina and I in Virginia. We met when he was in VA for business, began talking and then dating. He had given me a cell number but I don't hand out my home number either so I didn't think much about it. I had no problem doing most of the visits in VA because I don't care for Charlotte and he was up here often.
After a bit he mentioned that his sister was going through a divorce and he had let her and her 4 children stay with him. Her husband had had an affair and she walked out, had no place to go and Ron had lots of room so they came there. He acted like it was about to drive him crazy with all the noise and constant chaos that I now KNEW I didn't want to go visit him.
I did get his home number from the caller id. He said that it was okay to call but at night after things had calmed down. One day when he wasn't at work I called home to check on him because I knew he was ill and she answered and said he was sleeping. The next time I talked to him I mentioned I had called and he said that I had awakened her from her sleep....she works nights.....and he had heard about it FOREVER.
We continued to see each other, were even going to get married!!!! I wonder how we would have pulled that off??? My daughter adores him....now I know why he was so good with her.... as does my family! He SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so angry!! Mostly I feel STUPID!!!!!!! I sooooooo feel up to that drive to NC now, but would just look even more stupid!!!
I want a confrontation but can't make the call. Want to tell his wife to tell the wife so he'll be hurt like I am but don't want to hurt her....he does that well enough for everyone. It had been years since I had let a man into my heart....we all know other places had an all access pass, but not my heart.....and I go and pick the biggest loser so far!!!!! Damn I just feel like exploding!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm not one to air out all my personal issues like this but I so feel the need for advise. I'm not up to venting to friends or family yet. I'm not looking forward to playing the fool in this one! I sure hope someone has something to say that might help. How could he play with me for so long? How could he not care? How could he be so cruel??????????
How ANYTHING???????????????
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