Just thought I'd add my two cents worth. I personally think you should tell her as she has the right to know for any number of reasons. It will hurt her but in the long run she will appreciate being told.

This is a smaller issue but an example that I will use. I once smoked a pack a day and when I met my future wife I was forced to quit due to her having respitory problems and the fact that she wouldn't go near me for the smell. Well, I worked at this place where everyone smoked and soon fell back into the habit. The smell was explained away by working with smokers. Anyway one day she walked into the office while I was having a puff. Needless to say she was very pissed, but that wasn't the end of it. She also found out that a co-worker of hers knew I was smoking because I worked with her husband. My wife was very hurt that her co-worker did not tell her even though they were not best friends or anything. The embarassment of having other people know and not say anything was allmost enough for her to divorce me not that fact that I smoked.

Well, just thought I'd pass that on.

Now if I need to have a smoke I tell her. She still gets angry and refuses to touch me until I shower lol, but at least she knows!

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