Being the resident Pixies Cynic, I thougtht I would play Devil's Advocate just for a second.
If you were with him for a year, that means you shared birthdays and holidays with him. I assume he came up with some excuse as to why he couldn't spend these with you. What about meeting his friends or other family members?
Believe me, he is a jerk and he is dead wrong, but at no time in a year did any of his actions seem suspicious?

In my experiences, you get to know people not only by spending time with them but also with the people that are close to them. It just sounds like red flags were going up all over the place.
Oh well, my 2 cents.

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